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©Rebecca
Scott, 1997
Words that
are in blue and underlined are hyperlinked to the definitions of those
words elsewhere in this Dictionary.
- ACT-UP
- --AIDS Coalition
To Unleash Power, a radical activist AIDS group which tends to
use rather novel tactics, like putting giant condoms on national
monuments and throwing the ashes of lovers and friends who have
died of AIDS onto the White House lawn. Michaelangelo
Signorile is a founder and major player in ACT-UP.
- active-passive
split
- --a mode of
thought found in some cultures in which, in male-male sexual activity,
the only one who is perverted is the bottom.
In this mode of thought, a man who would allow himself to get
fucked is thought weak and womanish, whereas the top
retains his manhood because he is doing the fucking.
- A-gay
or A-List Gay
- --the homosexual
elite that has power, money, and priveledge
- andro
dyke or androgynous dyke
- --a lesbian
who is neither very masculine nor very feminine. The push for
lesbians to look androgynous came during the 1970s as part of
lesbian feminism, and was a backlash against the Butch/Femme
social structure of the working class bar scene. See also flannel-shirt
dyke and PC dyke.
- androgyny
- --the state
of being neither particularly masculine nor feminine, or of being
ambiguous. From the Greek meaning literally man-woman.
- Auntie Em
- --queer
- baby
butch
- --1) a young
butch 2) a lesbian of any age who acts or
looks like a young butch
- baby
dyke
- --a lesbian
under the age of 25
- barebacking
or bareback sex
- --unsafe sex.
A term used mostly by gay men.
- Barbie
- --a ditzy drag
queen
- BDSM
- --stands for,
in turn, Bondage and Discipline, Domination and Submission, and
Sadism and Masochism. BDSM is used to describe the activities
of the leather community.
- bean
queen
- --an Hispanic
drag queen. Used by some gay men, generally
derogatorily.
- bear
- --big furry
guys who like to scratch their backs against trees. This word
has also been spotted referring to dykes, presumably ones who
are big, butch, and burly, though perhaps not so furry.
- black triangle
- --in the Nazi
concentration camps, the black triangle (equilateral, worn point
down) was used to mark "undesirables," such as prostitutes, the
mentally ill, and the retarded. Lesbians in the camp probably
would have also worn the black triangle, although there is some
debate about it. It is sometimes worn as a pride symbol by lesbians.
- blue
- --a reference
to the notion that all homophobia would end if everyone who was
gay or bisexual would turn blue (or wear a blue dot on their forehead)
for just one day. This idea is duscussed in the short story "Am
I Blue?" by Bruce Coville, where it is referred to as the Third
Great Gay Fantasy (Am I Blue? Coming Out from the Silence,
ed. Marion Dane Bauer, HarperTrophy, a short story collection
for LGB youth), and in Bingo by Rita Mae Brown. Musician
Tori Amos also used this reference in the song "Hey Jupiter" on
Boys for Pele when she asked, "So are you gay? Are you
blue?" (Tori Amos, while straight, is a great friend to the gay
community and has been since she started playing in gay bars at
the age of 12.)
- blue
feather
- -- the name
of the Society for Creative Anachronism Clan or Household devoted
to the study of homosexuality in the Middle Ages and Renaissance
and to facilitating the socializing of the SCA's gay, lesbian,
and bisexual members. The erroneous story is that blue feathers
were worn in the hair of female Italian trubadours, as an indication
that it was a symbol of a preference for the "gentler sex," and
that this information was found in Judy Grahn's Another Mother
Tongue. This is manifestly untrue, as the information never
appeared in any copy of Ms. Grahn's book, and we have it on very
good authority (of certain people who were at the founding of
the Clan) that the symbol was chosen specifically because it had
no known associations. The symbol of the blue feather has now
moved outside of the SCA.
- bi
or bisexual
- --someone who
is attracted to both males and females. Some people prefer the
terms omnisexual or pansexual
instead, because "bi" means two, and there actually are more sexes
than two (see intersexual for more information
on this).
- bitch
- --1) a femme
submissive 2) a gay man or drag
queen who is out of favor with the speaker, rude, or especially
catty or campy
- bone smuggler
- --a drag
queen
- bottom
- --1) in general
(especially among gay men), the one who prefers to be the recipient
or to "catch." 2) in the leather community,
someone who is usually a masochist or a submissive.
There are many kinds of bottoms. See also Top.
- boy
- --1) a butch
or male submissive or bottom,
frequently one who role-plays as young 2) a boyish butch
lesbian
- boydyke
- --a boyish
butch lesbian. See also baby
butch.
- breeder
- --a derogatory
term for a heterosexual, bisexual, or, rarely, any queer
who wishes to have children
- bug chaser
- --a person
(usually a gay man) who wants to catch HIV
- bull
- --1) (n) short
for bulldyke or bulldagger
2) (adj) butch
- bulldagger
- --a very tough,
usually butch, lesbian
- bulldyke
- --a very tough,
usually butch, lesbian
- butch
- --1) (n) a
masculine woman, usually a lesbian 2) (adj) masculine, applied
to both men and women
- butch/femme
- --1) (adj)
describing a relationship in which one person is femme
and one is butch, and describing the dynamic
between them 2) the social structure prevalent in working-class
lesbian bars up through the early 1970s. This structure was strictly
enforced by peer pressure. One had to be either a butch or a femme,
and butches only dated femmes and femmes only dated butches. There
was a lot of backlash against this structure in the 1970s when
lesbian feminism emerged, and for a long time butches and femmes
were absolutely politically incorrect, and were likely to be shunned
by the feminist lesbian community. Butch/femme is starting to
make a comeback. In its new form, it is not rigidly enforced:
women are butch or femme because it is their own personality,
and nothing else. Butch-on-butch and femme-on-femme are no longer
discriminated against. There is, however, still very strong anti-butch/femme
sentiment.
- butchilinity
- --the quality
of being butch
- byke
- --a contraction
of bisexual dyke
- cake boy
- --a gay man
- Castro,
The
- --Castro Street
in San Francisco and the area surrounding it. The Castro District
is the gay ghetto, where queer couples walking
hand-in-hand are a more common sight than straight ones.
- Castro
clone
- --a gay man
of the type who lives in or frequents The Castro.
They all dress very similarly, tending towards very masculine
attire and pumped-up, buffed good looks. The style is, in many
ways, set by Tom of Finland.
- camp
- --a form of
humor popular among queers of many kinds.
Camp is highly satirical, sometimes to the point of meanness.
- chapstick
lesbian
- --a lesbian
who is very into sports, a sports dyke
- chicken
- --a very young
person who cruises older people, usually a gay male under the
age of 21
- chickenhawk
- --an older
person who likes the very young and seeks them out, most often
an older gay male
- choir
- --as in, "she
sings in our choir." Meaning that someone is queer.
- circuit
party or parties
- --one of several
parties scattered around the country that are held to raise money
for AIDS research. Circuit parties are sometimes criticised because
of the amount of unsafe sex and drug use which supposedly goes
on at them.
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- closet
- --where one
hides with one's clothes. Gays who are not public about being
gay are said to be "in the closet."
- closet case
- --a queer who
spends most of his or her life in the closet
and is very, very worried about it and is scared of being outed
- coming
out
- --to exit the
closet by becoming openly queer
- crossdresser
- --anyone who
wears clothes associated with the opposite gender
or sex, usually for their own pleasure. See
also Transvestite.
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- Daughters
of Bilitis
- --a lesbian
group launched in 1955 by Del Martin and Phyllis Lyon. The initial
emphasis of DoB was on socialization and community, but it slowly
involved itself in law reform and education. DoB, named for
a fictional contemporary of Sappho, published
the newsletter The Ladder.
- diesel
dyke
- --a very
truck-driver-like butch
- dildo
- --a vaguely-phallus-shaped
device used for sexual gratification. Actually, they come in
lots of shapes, from very-realistic penis-shape, to vegetables
like corn cobs and zucchini, to dolphins (the non-representational
ones are used by lesbians who don't care for phallic shapes).
- dom/domme/dominatrix
- --someone
who enjoys dominating another person in a Domination
and Submission scene. A Dom may or may not be a Sadist.
Dom is masculine, Domme and Dominatrix are feminine. Frequently
used interchangeably with Top.
- drag
queen
- --a gay man
who dresses as a woman for pleasure and/or performance. Or,
to quote To Wong Foo, With Love, Julie Newmar, "When
a gay man has way too much fashion sense for one gender, he
is a drag queen." It is usually polite to refer to a drag queen
as "she" when she is in drag, and "he" when
he is not.
- drag
- --either
clothing of the opposite sex; clothing of
the opposite gender; or a stylized, exaggerated
version of either of the first two
- dyke
- --a lesbian,
frequently one with attitude
- dykon
- --a lesbian
icon, such as kd lang, Melissa Etheridge, or Ellen Degeneres
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- earthy-crunchy
dyke
- --a lesbian
who is usually vegetarian and usually either New Age or Neopagan
and has a tendency to change her name to something like "Sparrow"
or "Lavender CrystalPower." Earth-mother type, wears Birkenstocks
(unless she's too vegetarian to wear leather), varies from extremely
flaky to very-nice-and-sensible-but-who-eats-too-much-tofu-with-bean-sprouts-for-most-people's-tastes.
- en femme
- --among transgendered
people, dressed to the nines as one's preferred gender
- en drabbe
- --among transgendered
people, dressed up as one's birth sex
- eyebrows,
singed or sparking
- --a phrase
used in some regions to indicate that someone is flaming.
eg: "Jamie will singe your eyebrows."
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- fab or
faboo
- --short for
Fabulous, a favorite word of many queens
- faggot
or fag
- --a gay man,
frequently one who is swishy, queeny,
or effeminate
- fag
hag
- --a person,
frequently a straight woman, who enjoys hanging out with gay
men
- fairy
- --a very
swishy gay man
- family
- --a code
word referring to gays or the gay community, as in, "Ellen Degeneres
is Family."
- Feinberg,
Leslie
- --trans
and gay (not to mention communist, feminist & other...) activist.
Leslie Feinberg was born female, but has lived as a male. Sie
considers hirself a transgendered
lesbian. Speaker and author of Stone Butch Blues, Transgender
Warriors, and the forthcoming Drag King Dreams.
- femme
- --1) (n)
a feminine woman, usually a lesbian 2) (n) a feminine gay man
or drag queen 3) (adj) feminine, applied
to both men and women
- fetish
or fetish object
- --feeling
of great sexual pleasure for an object or body part. One has
a fetish for a fetish object.
- Fire
Island
- --the narrow
barrier island, off Long Island, NY, where The Pines, a resort
favored by A-list gay men, where at least
one circuit party takes place, and where
lots of young handsome hunks go to party in general
- fish
- --what some
gay men call females; frequently derrogative, sometimes joking
- fish
queen
- --someone
who prefers performing cunnilingus to other kinds of sexual
activity (usually used for a male)
- flagging
- --to wear
a hanky to show what kind of sexual activity
one is interested in
- flaggot
- --abr.a
flaming faggot
- flame
or flaming
- --extravagantly
effeminate and flamboyant, an adjective usually applied to gay
men
- flannel-shirt
dyke
- --usually
a very casual lesbian who is neither butch
nor femme, but is generally very capable;
so called for the habit of wearing plaid flannel shirts whenever
the weather permits. They tend to be outdoors-types. There are
flannel-shirt butches and femmes, but not as many of them, since
the stereotype of the flannel-shirt dyke emerged during the
1970s when "The Uniform" for lesbians was jeans and a flannel
shirt.
- flipping
- --to cause
a stone butch to "melt" or allow herself to
be touched sexually, or to cause a top to
bottom
- fluff
- --an older
word for a femme, now fallen into disuse
- FTM
- --Female
To Male, referring to a person who is Trans.
- freedom
rings
- --a set of
(usually 6) rings of aluminum or some other substance in the
colors of the rainbow. Worn on one's person or adorning some
personal object, they usually indicate that the owner is gay
(or gay-friendly). The rings are based on the rainbow
flag, a gay pride symbol. A subtlety sometimes ignored is
that if the red ring is towards the wearer's right hand, they
are gay. If it is towards their left hand, they are straight
and gay-friendly.
- friend
of Dorothy or sister of Dorothy
- --a code
word for a gay person, originating from The Wizard of Oz
- fruit
- --a gay man
- fruit
bator fruit fly
- --see fag
hag
- fruit
loop(s)
- --1) slang
for freedom rings 2) an area frequently used
by gay men for cruising
- galimony
- --the lesbian
version of palimony
- gay
- --homosexual.
The term originated as a code word for homosexuals when queer
became too well-known. Previous to this usage, "gay" or "gey"
had been used since at least Victorian times to refer to sex,
usually of an illicit or publicly disapproved-of variety. "Geying
it up" once meant visiting a brothel.
- gaydar
- --gay radar,
the sense by which queers identify other
queers
- gender
- --the social,
mental, and emotional state associated with sex
(sex being purely physical) and sex role stereotypes. Gender
is masculine, feminine, neuter, or some combination thereof.
It is not, as it is frequently used, synonymous with sex.
- gender
bending
- --see gender
fuck
- gender
fuck
- --deliberately
disrupting the bipolar gender system.
- girl
- --1) a femme
submissive or bottom,
frequently one who roleplays as young 2) a gay man
- girlfriend
- --1) any
friend, either a woman or a gay man 2) a lesbian's lover
- glamour
butch
- --a butch
who likes to wear fancy suits, tuxedos, etc, frequently. Think
kd lang.
- gold-star
lesbian
- --a lesbian
who never has had and never intends to have sex with a man.
Sometimes they also get points for never sleeping with bisexuals.
Entirely too many of them get terribly self-righteous about
it, and look down on bisexuals and lesbians who have had sex
with men.
- graceful
- --the translation
of an Arabic euphemism for a female homosexual, apparently because
many female dancers are/were lesbian (given a few days, I may
even get the transliteration of the Arabic word)
- granola
dyke
- --see earthy-crunchy
dyke
- green
carnation
- --frequently
worn by Oscar Wilde as a boutonniere, this
flower became a symbol of gay men in Victorian England
- hanky
code
- --the code
used primarily by gay men, but also by some lesbians, when cruising
to signal to potential partners exactly what they are seeking.
Each color of bandanna or hanky signifies a different sexual
act, and is usually worn in the back pocket. If the hanky is
worn on the left, it means that the wearer is a top
or wishes to give a particular thing; on the right, that the
wearer is a bottom or wishes to receive
a particular thing. eg: In lesbian hanky code, light pink signifies
a dildo or strap-on. If a light pink
hanky is worn on the left, then the wearer is packing or likes
to wear a dildo. If the hanky is worn on the right, then the
wearer likes to get fucked with a dildo.
- heterosexism
- --the belief
that heterosexuality is superior to homosexuality or bisexuality,
or the tendency to assume that everyone is heterosexual
- high
femme
- --a very,
very feminine person
- hir
- --the transgender
pronoun equivalent to him or her and his or hers. Transgendered
individuals (such as Leslie Feinberg) that
neither conventional pronoun quite seem to fit are frequently
referred to by the transgender pronoun.
- homocentric
- --the belief
that two of a kind beats a straight
- homophobia
- --an extreme
irrational hatred or fear of homosexuals
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- intersexual
- --a person born
with ambiguous genitalia. Thousands of babies every year are born
with ambiguous genitalia, and are frequently reshaped by surgeons,
often without the parents' consent or even knowledge. These operations
can result in emotional trauma to the child, and loss of sensation
and orgasmic ability.
- in the life
- --being out
as queer and living in the queer community
- invert
- --what Freud called
homosexuals
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- keys
- --worn dangling
from a belt loop, keys signify (in an appropriate context) that
the person is into BDSM. As with the hanky
code, someone with "keys left" is a top,
and "keys right" is a bottom.
- kiki
- --in the
days when butch/femme ruled in the bars,
this was a derogatory term for someone who was neither butch
nor femme
- kinky
or kink
- --describing
sex which most people find unusual or abnormal
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- lambda
- --the Greek
letter which transliterates as L. To the Greeks, it was a symbol
of justice and equality, taking its shape from the scales of
justice. It was adopted as a gay pride/gay rights symbol by
the Mattachine Society in the 1970s, and
is an international symbol of gay pride. Mattachine adopted
it because of the sybolism of Justice and because they had been
told that the arny of one of the Greek city-states used to paint
the lambda on their shields, and members of Greek armies, because
of the male-only environment they lived in, frequently took
male lovers.
- lavender
- --a color
associated with gay men since Ancient Greece, where the Greek
word for lavender also meant a gay man
- leatheror
leather community
- --referring
to the community of fetishists and people who engage in BDSM,
so called because leather is a very common fetish,
and a lot of BDSM-folk wear and like it. Latex is another common
fetish.
- leatherdyke
- --a lesbian
who is a member of the Leather/BDSM
community
- leatherman
- --a (usually
gay) man who is a member of the Leather/BDSM
community
- lesbian
- --a homosexual
woman. The word derives from the Greek island of Lesbos, where
the poetess Sappho ran a school for young
women, and wrote often erotic poetry about love between women.
She is considered by many lesbians to have been a lesbian, although
she was married and had children.
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- lipstick
lesbian
- --1)a lesbian
who behaves in a very feminine manner, not so much because she
is a femme, but to distance herself from dykedom. These types
tend to not even like the word "lesbian" and be very closeted.
They tend to run ads that say things like, "Feminine-acting
woman seeks feminine-acting woman for romance. No drugs, smokers,
or butches." They are also considered irritating by dykes.
2)synonym for High Femme
- love
that dare not speak its name, the
- --one of
the more poetic phrases used to describe homosexuality, courtesy
of Lord Alfred Douglas, the fellow who got Oscar
Wilde in so much trouble
- low
femme
- --a femme
lesbian who is, pershaps, not quite so stereotypically feminine
as a high femme, usually preferring jeans
and a blouse or t-shirt to skirts for everyday. Also known as
a blue jeans femme.
- LP
- --Lesbian
Potential, used when playing spot-the-queers
in public places, as in "she's got high LP"
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- maricon
- --Spanish
word meaning sissy or faggot, usually used as a derrogative
term. It appears to derive from a word meaning "changeling,"
and may be related to the word for "butterfly." Maricona,
the feminine form, is sometimes used to mean dyke.
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- masochist
- --someone
who derives sexual pleasure from pain
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- Miss
Thang or Miss Thing
- --a drag
queen. This has its origins in American Black culture, where
"Miss Fine Thang" meant a woman who thought a lot of herself
and had a big attitude, thereby making it perfect for many drag
queens.
- monosexism
- --1)the belief
that monosexuality (heterosexuality or homosexuality) is superior
to bisexuality or omnisexuality
2)the belief that bisexuality or omnisexuality do not exist
- monosexual
- --an exclusively
heterosexual or exclusively homosexual person
- MTF
- --Male to
Female, usually referring to a transsexual,
but also sometimes to a transgendered person
or a crossdresser
- MTM
- --Male to
Male. Some female to male transsexuals dislike
the term FTM, because they feel that they
were never female, and were always male, and that all this surgery
is merely cosmetic, to make it clear to everyone else that they
are male.
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- nelly
- --see swish
- neocon
- --neoconservative;
a label given by members of Sex Panic! to any gay person who
thinks that maybe some gay men ought not sleep around so much
or go barebacking
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- out
- --1) publicly
known as queer, sometimes modified with
"very" 2) known as queer to close friends and/or blood family
3) acknowledge to oneself that one is queer
- outed
- --having
it announced publicly that one is queer
by someone other than oneself, usually when one would rather
stay in the closet. Outing has come into
use as a political weapon, and is strongly advocated and used
by Michaelangelo Signorile most prominently.
Mr. Signorile makes it his business to know the orientations
of important people, especially in politics, and if they don't
vote the way he thinks they should, he announces their queerness
to the world.
- omnisexual
- --someone
who is sexually attracted to people of all sexes
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- packing
- --among lesbians,
to wear a strap-on dildo,
usually under one's clothes. Also, to put something (such as
a pair of rolled-up sweatsocks or a cut up Kotex) in the underwear
or shorts to achieve the illusion that there is something else
there.
- pansexual
- --1) (n)
someone who is sexually attracted to people of all sexes
2) (adj) used to denote an event at which people of all sexes
are welcome
- PC
dyke or Politically Correct dyke
- --a lesbian
who is very careful in her language not to offend those people
who are currently the pet minorities. They are mostly andro
dykes because butch and femme
are still very politically incorrect. Some of them become very
dogmatic and absolutist about who is and who is not one of the
"worthy" minorities.
- pink
- --a color
frequently associated with homosexuals
- pink triangle
- --the symbol
gay men were made to wear in the Nazi concentration camps. It
became a symbol of gay pride, and was first used to remind some
homophobic Jews that homosexuals were in the concentration camps,
too.
- pinky
ring
- --at one
time, worn by both men and women to signify that one was queer.
Usually worn on the left hand.
- play
- --(v) any
BDSM activity
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- post-op
- --post operative
transsexual, one who has completed all of
the surgeries he or she intends to have
- pre-op
- --pre-operative
transsexual, one who has not yet had any surgeries
but intends to do so
- pride
- --1)n
the belief that Gay is Good! 2)adj used in titles of
events to denote that they are queer celebrations
- pride
flag
- --see rainbow
flag
- pride
parade
- --a parade
celebrating the Queer Experience
- process
- --(v) to
discuss with one's friends or therapist or support group any
problems which might be bothering one with the aim of figuring
out how to solve the problems. Most commonly used by lesbians.
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- purple
star
- --usually
enamel, worn in the seventies as a symbol of lesbianism
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- quaggot
- --abr.
a queer faggot (Yes,
I know it's redundant.)
- queen
- --1) a drag
queen 2) a flamboyant, effeminate gay man
- queeny
- --flamboyant
and effeminate
- queer
- --gay, lesbian,
bisexual, omnisexual, pansexual, transgendered, or transsexual
- Queer
Nation
- --an activist
organization, very loosely organized. Founded by Michaelangelo
Signorile, Queer Nation tends to attract young liberal radicals,
and tends to chant things like "We're Here, We're Queer, Get
Used To It!"
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- rainbow
or rainbow flag
- --a gay pride
symbol, designed by Gilbert Baker in 1978, originally having
eight stripes: hot pink, red, orange, yellow, green, blue, indigo,
and violet, which stood for sexuality, life, healing, the sun,
nature or serenity, art, harmony, and spirit. The hot pink stripe
was dropped when flag makers couldn't find suitable material,
and the indigo stripe was dropped to make the flag more balanced,
so that three stripes could hang on either side of lampposts
at Pride Parades.
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- sadomasochism
- --taking
pleasure from the giving and receiving of pain; the SM in BDSM
- sadist
- --someone
who takes sexual pleasure from giving pain
- SAM
- --Smart Assed
Masochist, a masochist who is rude in order
to receive punishment
- San
Francisco Accent
- --being gay.
When Bank of America was acquired by NationsBank, and representatives
were sent from SF to NationsBank's headquarters in North Carolina,
an amusing request was sent back. The home office asked that
no more employees with "San Fracisco accents" be sent. One can
only assume that this is a new codephrase for being gay.
- Sapphic
- --code word
for a lesbian, deriving from Sappho
- Sappho
- --ancient
Greek poetess and headmistress of a school for young women on
the island of Lesbos. Sappho wrote poetry, much of which is
now lost, about her female lovers, who were frequently students
at her finishing school. She had a daughter, Kleïs, to whose
father she may or may not have been married; there is some debate
on this point.
- Saturday
night butch
- --a term
from the 1950s and 60s, when butch/femme
was the norm in lesbian bars, this means that a person was not
a real butch, but only dressed up as a
butch on the weekends. Women who were always butch and couldn't
hide it looked down on these people as posers. Today, Saturday
night butches are no longer really around, because they're all
andro dykes instead.
- scene
- --(1) a subculture,
as in "the club scene" (2) in BDSM, the
arranged and negotiated sex or play; the framework (e.g. a 'cop
scene' is one in which one or more of the players takes the
role of a cop) or period of time (e.g. "Master Bob praised his
submissive before ending the scene.") in which BDSM activity
takes place. Used more loosely, it means any non-vanilla
sex act.
- sex
- --physical
plumbing or XX or XY chromosomes. There are an estimated 5 sexes
by one researcher's count: Male, Merm, Herm, Ferm, and Female.
Merms, Herms, and Ferms are intersexuals.
Herm is a hermaphrodite with one teste and one ovary and external
sex organs that are somewhere in between male and female. A
Merm has testes but ambiguously-shaped genitalia. A Ferm has
ovaries but ambiguously shaped genitalia. Some people are born
with chromosomes opposite to their genital sex. Jamie Lee Curtis,
for example, has XY chromosomes, making her chromosomally male,
while she has unambiguously female genitals. In any case, sex
is purely physical.
- s/he
or sie
- --the transgender
pronoun equivalent to he or she. Transgendered
individuals (such as Leslie Feinberg) that
neither conventional pronoun quite seem to fit are frequently
referred to by the transgender pronoun.
- Signorile,
Michaelangelo
- --an activist,
member of the queer left, author of several books, and founder
of Queer Nation and ACT-UP
- smurf
- --gay guys
under 25, usually blonde with lots of attitude
- SoBe
- --South Beach
Miami, Florida, a popular place for gays, especially gay men
- soft butch
- --a butch
lesbian who is, perhaps, not so stereotypically masculine as
a stone butch
- stone
butch
- --a very
masculine woman, usually to the point that she is mistaken for
a man frequently. The term comes from African American slang,
in which "stone" means "very." It has come to have other meanings
as well. A butch can be sexually stone,
as in, not being able to permit herself to be touched on the
genitals for sex; emotionally stone, meaning that she has locked
away her emotions and has trouble acknowledging or expressing
them; or physically stone, having trouble being touched at all.
A stone butch is usually some combination of all of these. One
stone butch summed up hir essence with the statement, "It is
a cool crawling sensation that causes a roaring rushing of white
sound in the ears."
- stone
femme
- -- 1)a femme
lesbian who never tries to flip or "melt"
her stone butch lover, but prefers to pleasure
her lover by taking a passive role in sex 2)a femme lesbian
who does not like to be touched, much like a stone butch
- Stonewall
- --the Stonewall
Inn, a gay bar in the late 1960s on Christopher Street, Greenwich
Village, New York, which was raided by police on the night of
June 28th, 1969. The queers in the bar (mostly butches,
femmes, leathermen,
leatherdykes, and drag
queens) fought back, trapping police inside, breaking windows,
and setting fire to the bar. Rioting continued for five days.
These riots are generally considered to be the birth of the
gay pride movement, although there were
groups before that, such as the Mattachine
Society and the Daughters of Bilitis.
- strap-on
- --a dildo
worn in a harness so that it is situated in the same location
as a man's penis
- submissive
- --someone
who likes to seem to give up control to a dom
or domme
- swish
- --1) (adj)
effeminate and flamboyant 2) (verb) to act or move effeminately
or flamboyantly
- swishy
- --see swish
- switch
- --1) one
who is both a top and a bottom
in the leather sense, and switches back
and forth 2) one who is butch sometimes
and femme sometimes, and andro
sometimes
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- Teena,
Brandon
- --a young
pre-op FTM TS
who was living as a male. His birth sex was
discovered, and he was raped by two young men. They threatened
to kill him if he reported the rape. He did report it, and they
killed him and his girlfriend.
- three
dollar bill
- --as in,
"queer as a three dollar bill." Meaning
that the person is family.
- toaster
oven
- --referring
to the coming out episode of the TV show Ellen,
wherein Ellen Morgan's new friend who has just revealed herself
to be a lesbian makes a crack about if she had converted one
more person, she would have gotten a toaster. Ellen, deep in
denial of her own sexuality, says that if that's gay humor,
she doesn't get it. Later, Ellen goes to the airport to find
her new friend and tell her "I got the toaster joke." At the
end, lesbian rock star Melissa Etheridge puts in a brief appearance
to sign Ellen up as gay and give Ellen's friend her toaster.
Thus the shirt, "Ask me how you can win a toaster."
- Tom
of Finland
- --a Finnish
artist (whose last name I can never remember) who draws extremely
sexy pictures of heavily-muscled men wearing very butch clothing,
such as lumberjack, sailor, or biker outfits. There is now a
Tom of Finland line of clothing as well.
- top
- --1) (n)
in general, the partner in sex who is active, or giving 2) (n)
in the Leather Community, a sadist,
dom, domme, or dominatrix; the one who takes
charge of the scene 3) (v) to take charge
or be bossy
- Trans
- --a catch-all
term for anyone crossing gender or sex
boundaries (transgender, transsexual,
transvestite, etc.). Capitalized when referring
to the community in general by those who view it as an ethnic
designation similar to African American or Jewish.
- transfag
- --a gay FTM
- transgender(ed)or
TG
- --1) anyone
who crosses gender boundaries, including,
but not limited to, transsexuals and transvestites.
2) a person who lives mostly or completely in the gender not
associated with their birth sex, but who
does not identify as a transsexual.
- transsexual
or TS
- --a person
whose birth sex is viewed by hir
as incorrect or incompatible with hir image of hirself, and
who takes steps (including but not limited to physical and/or
hormone therapy, and surgery) to make hir outer self match hir
self-identification.
- transvestite
- --anyone
who regularly dresses in clothing associated with the opposite
gender or sex. Some
people cross-dress for pleasure (it is a variety of fetish);
others have other reasons. A Trans person
is often considered a transvestite by mainstream culture, while
s/he hirself may find
hir clothing perfectly suitable for one with hir self-image.
- tryke
- --a contraction
of transsexual dyke, meaning a male
to female transsexual who is a lesbian.
- tween
- --one who
is in between butch and femme, and can take on either role;
a switch
- twinkie
or twink
- --tasty and
cream filled, but having absolutly no nutritional value; young,
shallow and cute (much like a smurf - usually
very bar/dance scene)
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- U-hauls
- --used to
refer to lesbians who fall in love at first sight and move in
right away with a new lover. This phenomenon is so well-known
within the lesbian community that it resulted in the joke "What
does a lesbian take on her second date? A U-haul."
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- vagitarian
- --a code
word for lesbian (and if you can't figure it out, then I can't
help you)
- vanilla
- --non-leather
or non-kinky sex or the people who have
that kind of sex
- vegan
- --the most
extreme kind of vegetarian, one who will eat no meat or animal
product, including dairy products or eggs. Most will not use
animal products of any sort, such as leather. An increasing
number of lesbians are vegetarian and vegan.
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- Wilde,
Oscar
- --(1854-1900)
one of the great bisexual or gay (and Irish) poets, authors, and
dramatists, Wilde wrote The Picture of Dorian Gray (his
only novel, highly criticzed as immoral), plays such as The
Importance of Being Earnest, and poems such as "The Ballad
of Reading Gaol." Oscar Wilde married Costance Lloyd and had two
sons with her. Later, he began a relationship with Lord Alfred
Douglas, whose parents had him arrested and jailed for it. Wilde
died in poverty and disgrace.
- woman-identified-womanor
woman-loving-woman
- --the lesbian
feminist definition of lesbian
- White Party,
The
- --one of the
"circuit parties," it is a mostly-gay-male party to which all
attendees wear all-white. The White Party is held in South
Beach Miami. Circuit parties are fundraisers for AIDS organizations,
although some AIDS activists object to them, saying that they
encourage the very unsafe-sex and drug use that sped the spread
of AIDS.
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